Līgo Haībun “peace”

14 Apr


You Carry the Cure In Your Own Heart

by Andrew Vachss
Originally published in Parade Magazine, August 28, 1994

Emotional abuse is both the most pervasive and the least understood form of child maltreatment. Its victims are often dismissed simply because their wounds are not visible. In an era in which fresh disclosures of unspeakable child abuse are everyday fare, the pain and torment of those who experience “only” emotional abuse is often trivialized. We understand and accept that victims of physical or sexual abuse need both time and specialized treatment to heal. But when it comes to emotional abuse, we are more likely to believe the victims will “just get over it” when they become adults. But emotional abuse is unique because it is designed to make the victim feel guilty.

How you forgive yourself is as individual as you are. But knowing you deserve to be loved and respected and empowering yourself with a commitment to try is more than half the battle. Much more.

And it is never too soon—or too late—to start.

when searching for peace

we often forget to look

inside our own hearts


I write this from personal experience in the hope that others will see that we can heal..



9 Responses to “Līgo Haībun “peace””

  1. kz April 14, 2013 at 11:11 am #

    this haibun’s great. emotional abuse requires just as much attention as physical and sexual abuse. it leaves stubborn scars and a kind of damage that lingers. and it’s true what you say in your haiku, peace really begins from within.

  2. Green Speck April 14, 2013 at 11:36 am #

    A really good message in your piece !!!

  3. Parul April 14, 2013 at 12:05 pm #

    You picked a very important and neglected topic. I couldn’t agree more.
    Love your haiku!

  4. nightlake April 14, 2013 at 11:46 pm #

    True. It is not often spoken about and not even considered a crime. The victims have to go through the pain and live with it all their lives..very effective

  5. Peripatetic Eric April 15, 2013 at 11:52 am #

    Valuable lesson, great haiku.

  6. Penny L Howe April 15, 2013 at 2:09 pm #

    Perfect, That’s all, just perfect!

  7. anelephantcant April 16, 2013 at 6:44 am #

    Very powerful piece. Excellent writing.

  8. Björn Rudberg (brudberg) April 17, 2013 at 11:58 am #

    Great one… I really like what you have woven here.


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